So, Ray Rice is banned from the NFL. At long fucking last. (Don’t tell me the NFL didn’t see the video of Rice knocking Palmer unconscious, that’s just straight up bullshit.)
While I’m glad Rice has been virtually banned from playing pro football forever, I have to wonder this…
Did the people (TMZ, every news agency and website who is showing this video, I’m looking at you) who released the video/s of Janay Palmer being PUNCHED AND KNOCKED OUT COLD and dragged out of an elevator consider her wishes when making her assault public domain? No, they did not. Know why?
BECAUSE A MAN’S CAREER STORY STILL TAKES THE FRONT SEAT BEFORE A BATTERED WOMAN’S RIGHT TO PRIVACY.
I never got why people say “heartbroken” when describing the passing of someone they didn’t know, personally. But I kind of get it tonight.
Effortlessly sharp and funny, without stooping to being mean. RIP. Very sad.
This is simply one of the best articles I’ve ever read in my entire life.
It should be read by everyone, everywhere.
Very few men talk publicly about men’s responsibility for rape and violence against women, both culturally and literally.
And when conversations about this subject are started by men, they often either miss salient points entirely or simply devolve into a shitshow of the same traps they attempt to address….that all rapists are recognizable monsters, that sexual assaults and violence are a “realistic” risk of some professions, that male-dominated society doesn’t significantly contribute to rape, that rape culture doesn’t really exist, that only poor, uneducated men beat their wives, etc.
Men who would never dream of groping, assaulting, raping, hitting or killing women are exactly the men who NEED to talk about violence against women. These are the men who can help greatly to instigate the change we need, particularly when it comes to male-dominated structures like laws and access to medical care and legal services that women either rely upon or are, too often, driven away from after they are raped or injured by men.
It’s time to stop pretending that this is just a women’s issue.